Dear Model, From an Ex Model

by - Saturday, June 27, 2020

Hey Beauties,

Some of you may know that I used to be a model, I write about it in my new book which you can find here.

I felt led to encourage you in this season of where many are experiencing lockdown, unable to get the regular gigs that they would normally get and may be considering a change. I come in peace and with the love of God.

I want to make it clear that I am not demonising modelling as a whole, because it is possible to get into an industry to glorify God. For example, a fashion model modelling a collection of modest dresses or a beauty model, modelling new make up. I am speaking to some of the people I used to be in the industry with and will also give you a resource on how to delete vulgar images/videos of yourself off the internet.

"You model to sell something, not to sell yourself"

I started modelling around age 17, the main goal was to build my portfolio and start work. I was not tall enough to be a fashion model, not curvy enough to be a glamour model so I started off not being sure how I fit in the industry. I decided to be a beauty model, towards the end.

To give you an idea: 
Beauty model - Focus on the face, likely to model make up.
Fashion model - catwalk, outfits - those that model clothes online 
Glamour/Eye candy - bikini, nudes

As soon as I had enough money, I started taking pictures at those popular studios - I don't know if anyone remembers but there was a time around 2007-2008 ish, when everyone had professional pictures. It was the time where most people were getting onto Facebook and people were like "So everyone is a model now?"

Knowing that I had what it took to be behind the camera, I started marketing my Portfolio. A popular website was the place to be then, where you could update your portfolio and collaborate with other creatives, be it make up artist, photographers, clothing designers and the like.

I was at the beginning of my modelling career and made a decision that I would NEVER do any glamour modelling or nudes and I am so glad I stuck to it, because it would have ruined my plans in life! I respected and supported other models in the industry and often collaborated with them, but started to wonder whether I was good enough. I constantly compared myself to others, which was no good for my self-esteem.

I have noticed that some of the models in the UK scene are still in the game, some have had plastic surgery and others have not. I understand that surgery is your choice. But you should not have to cut yourself open and put something foreign in you, to please someone else. My main plea today is to encourage you that, if you feel this blog post is for you, you don't have to carry on. This is specifically for the glamour models, that can admit to taking videos, pictures that can be classed as soft pornography. Sis, I know you are beautiful but these men only want you for your looks, a quick thrill while he watches you and then he moves on to watching actual pornography.

I think you would agree that pornography is destroying our society. It gives an unrealistic view of what sex should be like, puts more pressure on women to be perfect and increases sexual offences and sexual immorality. As a Probation Officer, I know what I am talking about. This is not for you to feel judged, put down or worse. It is just to encourage you and give you the space away from your career to reflect. 

An ex-model in the industry I am aware of (who I will not name) stopped a few years ago and gave her life to Christ. I observed that she started a You Tube channel preaching the Gospel but took it down and disappeared. She had children, a partner and wanted to do things the right way, by getting married and dedicating their lives to God. Unfortunately, her videos and pictures are still on the internet of her half naked. This may have discouraged her, but I am pleased to know that she made the effort to change her ways, to better her life. 

I noticed that the industry did not really care about the models. Once they did their job, after a few years they would get someone fresher and younger. It is all about imagery, but you are not just a piece of meat, an object or the next source of a random person's sexual pleasure. With the rise of social media, showing off bodies in an inappropriate way has become so normal, even those that class themselves as Christians are doing it! As a woman of God, I like looking good so I am not demonising it, but carrying ourselves in a way that represents God well and does not attract a lustful man, is something that we should be mindful of. If you attract a man because of the way you look and cannot maintain it, he will simply keep looking for the next best thing, whilst cheating on you in the relationship. These are just the realities that I want to show you today. A man will not take you seriously if you do not take yourself seriously. Beauty fades. What will you offer when gravity eventually hits the plastic in your body?

1 Peter 3:3-4 (NKJV)
Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.
(The word quiet here means peaceful in Greek)

Sis, I am sure you would want to settle down one day, get married and have children. A man is very territorial by nature and would not want to have half naked pictures of you on the internet. If he does, then he is not really a responsible and reliable man. The issue with exposing your body is, that the more you give, the more they will want. This whole Nikki Minaj culture of rapping about your body, how many men are chasing you, what they are buying you etc has seeped into our generation and is changing lives for the wrong reasons. There is more to you than the sexual favours you can offer, how good you look and how big your bum is. The reality is that you will have to start to twerk your brain when all the excitement is done for that relationship. Past your looks, a man was created to have a companion, a helpmeet that is the wife (See book of Genesis in the Bible for the story of creation). So you would eventually have to ask yourself what you can bring to the table.

1 Timothy 4:2 "speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their own conscience seared with a hot iron."

Rapping about your private parts and what they can do is not really that inspirational. Anyone can have sex and learn to twerk but how many can be kingdom women with a pure heart to serve God? 

Moving on from glamour modelling:
- I know this may have been your life's income and your whole world, but if you are reading this, it is with love that I say it is time to move on. This is not God's will for your life. He may want you to be a model, but just not a glamour model.
- If you want to give your life to Christ all you need to do is believe in your heart and confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and you will be saved (Romans 10:9)
- To remove your explicit content from the internet, I know of a good company called Reputation Mafia that can legally do this for you. It can be a bit pricy, but for this new life you are now embarking on, I believe it is worth it.
- You may want to come away from social media for some time and spend it getting to know yourself again, who God created you to be and to make sense of life, the things you have experienced etc
- Sometimes, an overly sexual lifestyle is as a result of some form of abuse. Speak to someone about it. Join a church, get a mentor. If you do not have one at hand I am a Life Coach, that can help you too. Get in touch -
- You may have to cut off almost everyone you know. 

This lifestyle affects the family life and generations on a longer term basis. The man that you attract will not respect you, even if he does not say it, the relationship will not be solid, because anything that is not built on the foundation of Christ eventually falls, children will not have a secure home and will observe mummy feeling insecure and making money from her body. I know that you are better than that.

At age 20, I prayed and asked God whether this was the path for me. He did not lead me to continue, so I stopped and focussed on studying, working on my career and building my life. Today I am happy with my achievements. Although I was not a glamour model, I was around many. Please share this post with someone that needs to read it.

If you want to speak one on one, please email me. I am dedicated to encourage you -

More about me here
My YouTube channel here
If you gave your life to Christ, I recommend this book here, called Daily Devotional which I authored.

Things will get better
Rosemary x

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