Mirror Them

by - Tuesday, February 11, 2020

Hey Beauties,

I hope you are well.

I wanted to encourage you on a topic that is close to my heart.

This should encourage you to be intentional about all your relationships and pray to know why someone is in your life. Sometimes, you need a Judas to get to your next level.

If you are someone that specifically has a gift on encouraging people, you are usually oozing with words of encouragement, compliments and genuine love. But you may have noticed that this is not well received by many. I have come to realise that character, integrity and genuine love is a rarity. If you are confident, self-aware and living at your highest potential, don't expect everyone to be happy for you. Even family members be trippin! 

I have come up with a wisdom way of dealing with such. Sometimes, you have to love people from a distance and understand that real genuine love is not what people are used to. Especially if you can sense that they do not want anything to do with you. In some cases you should be obedient to God if He is leading you to still speak with people that you know hate you. My Pastor says that this is a level of growth. I can imagine how much of a challenge this can be but, just know that you are doing it for God.

Also, there is the factor that some women in the church still have a long way to go when it comes to the jealous, envious and gossipping spirit. I can always sense when a female has this spirit and I pray that she will allow herself to overcome. Honestly, I have so much to give especially when it comes to women. I have a big heart for women and want to see them do well. I do not need to compete with anyone when I do not mind if they do better than me, because I know that I am doing excellently. 

From the age of three I was ignored in nursery because I could read! the teachers did not want to speak to me! In secondary school, I had some issues with women when they decided to turn against me. I have worked with managers and colleagues in which I am fully aware that they do not like me and there is nothing I can do about it. I am led to keep my distance and serve Christ with a spirit of excellence. I used to think maybe there was something wrong with me or I was simply a bad friend. But when God developed my character and I saw that I was loving and kind, I knew it was a God thing...

In my life at every stage, I noticed a pattern that was beyond my control. I realised that I had the Queen Esther anointing, which in short means that anyone with this anointing is highly favoured, comes from unusual family circumstances, has very few friends who are determined to watch over spiritually (Mordecai) and a lady that is always on a mission. A blog post that will detail more of what I am talking about by another sister in Christ can be found here. 

In some cases, we need to distance ourselves without even greeting hateful people that choose to be used by the enemy. Cutting people off is the best thing that you may need to do.

Luke 9:26 (NKJV)
For whoever is ashamed of Me and My words, of him the Son of Man will be ashamed when He comes in His own glory, and in His Father’s, and of the holy angels.

Some people keep their distance from me because I am not very popular or they are ashamed to admit that I am awesome, because I do not fit into any typical box. I strive to be myself and I am comfortable in my skin. So I use the above scripture to explain that if people are ashamed of you or cannot support you, sometimes you have to mirror them so that they can see themselves. This should never be an eye for an eye situation, because we all owe everyone love. But you have to apply wisdom to each situation.

I have spent time trying to get to know women that I know do not like me, so that I could show them Christ. But it became as though I was begging for their friendship, when I simply wanted to love and encourage them. The thing is, I am not in need of anything from anyone. I do not do things with an ulterior motive or because I expect something in return! Sometimes, I want to speak about Jesus so much that I forget myself in the midst of it. When I have tried for a few times and I can see that the person will not allow themselves to receive me, I release them to God. 

I know that I have a lot to give women. I recognise that we have similar issues and struggles in this life and my whole aim is to bring the best out of them. So the way I see it is that, anyone that cannot receive me well simply misses out on the good that I have to give. 

Matthew 10:41 
He who receives a prophet in the name of a prophet shall receive a prophet’s reward. And he who receives a righteous man in the name of a righteous man shall receive a righteous man’s reward.

I say all this to say, that if you are a genuine, loving, encouraging person, learn to discern people's hearts towards you so that you are not taken for granted. Do not give too much too soon. Learn how to have a healthy balance. People can get very familiar as it is almost like they think you are a fool because you are kind. You are generous and make time for the body of Christ. Do not allow people to change you and make you bitter. But rather, save that for those that really need your assistance as opposed to those that want nothing from you. It is not by force. Healthy relationships require boundaries so develop your relationships one step at a time, watching out for red flags (male or female!).

Philippians 4:8 (NKJV)
Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.

It is your responsibility to focus on the positive and guard your heart. Retain a positive spirit through the persecution and mockery and know that God sends everyone friends :)

Some people think that just because they are a Christian, they should be a door mat with no standards, boundaries or value in themselves. But Kings and Queens carry themselves in a certain way, the Word of God gives us wisdom, so allow the Holy Spirit to minister to you when serving and dealing with people. Its a journey and I am learning daily! Remember, you are royalty!

I hope this encouraged.

Rosemary x

My video from my Valentines workshop can be found here. 

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